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Hi from CΓ©cile,

This is a real story: I recently met a very talented senior professional.

Personality? Check! Talent? Check. Charisma? Probably check!

HOWEVER...

When he speaks in front of an audience (big or small), he struggles most of the times.

Why is that?

Have you ever experienced the same feeling? Freezing on stage when you open your mouth? Not remembering much from your preparation?

It's very common. I would dare say more than half of all professionals struggle with that. Interesting you might say.Β 

What's even more interesting is the root cause of this problem.

You may not believe it but it's JUDGEMENT.

Judging yourself and others when delivering a presentation or speech just happens, most of the time.

Fancy improving your communication and presentation skills? Drop judgement and, trust me, you will see a difference. Right away.

"But why is judgement so detrimental to one's public speaking skills AND confidence?" Read on for the answer!

Is there good judgement? NO!Β 

If you judge others when they present (saying things like "He's no good presenter!" or "She doesn't know her thing, look at how she stands and talks!"), you automatically create a judging mindset on yourself.

And it's not only about kindness (yes, we people and professionals need to treat everyone kindly).

It's also about self-sabotaging. Here is how it works.

You judge others for their presentation and speaking skills (often saying or implying horrible things) and then, when the time comes to open your mouth in your team meeting, the same "judging monkey" turns up in your head telling you this:

"See? You are the same as the others. You are not a gifted presenter. Not even a confident one. You will mess up again!".

Don't believe me? Think about it for a moment.

I'm sure this is something you have experienced. Maybe you have given a name to that judging voice: the impostor, the saboteur...

By the way, if you are tired of being sabotaged by self-judgement, have a look at this program. It might just help you for good!

Long story short, don't judge, it doesn't help.

Be kind to yourself and others. Besides, judgement by others is something out of your control, so why bother?

If you receive feedback about your performance, that's another story. So take everything with a grain of salt.

Still unsure? Watch my short #theRealCecile video below to hear me elaborating on the issue!

#theRealCecile on judgement

An all-purpose quick fix for your presentations

Now hear me, there are no quick fixes to make you the best presenter in the face of this world.

That takes time and effort (plus the right guidance and tools).

However, there are some quick fixes to improve how you deal and respond to difficult situations on stage.

No matter your preparation, some things may not work when the time comes. It's OK, you can take it from there and still do your best and nail it.

Instead of fearing those moments, or dreading a difficult question from someone in the audience, you can use structure to help you stay collected and "cover" any temporary lack of confidence or other negative feelings rising up.

Keep this in mind: structure helps you control what you say and helps your mind stay focused and on track.

Have you heard about mini-structures? Check this out & find out how you can use them to nail a speech or presentation, even a challenging Q&A or ask-me-anything session.

That’s all from CΓ©cile this week! See you soon!

In the meantime, remember that confidence is saying to yourself β€œI got my own back”!

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Today’s keywordsΒ (Keep them in mind, process & work on them) :Β 

No judgement, kindness, structure


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