Volume 23 | Issue 04 Web version

NOCCO Anonymous Times

Published by North Orange County InterGroup Association Alcoholics of Anonymous Groups, INC. (714) 773-HELP (4357)

1661 E. Chapman Avenue, Suite 1H

Fullerton, CA 92831

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April 2023 Issue

STEP 4

“Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.”

In step four of AA you are taking an honest look at yourself, both good and bad traits. This requires you to be honest with yourself. Making a list on paper or computer will allow you to inventory your resentments: people, places, things, institutions, ideas and principles with whom you have been hurt, threatened, angered, or are resentful toward. Step 4 works when you make that searching and fearless moral inventory of yourself. It is the beginning of your journey into a deep dive of your character traits and defects and how it affects others. Some examples of a Step 4 inventory are listed here:

“I lie to the people I care about, and it’s hurt them.”
“I desire power, so I boast about my achievements.”
“I have alienated those around me by my selfishness.”
“I bring others down with my self-loathing and shame.”
“I am self-righteous and judgmental of others.”
“I have taken my anger out on my family and friends.”

STEP FOUR OF AA: Moral Inventory of Yourself

Step 4 of Alcoholics Anonymous encourages us to make, “A searching and fearless moral inventory” of ourselves. In effect, this step is designed to help those struggling with alcoholism examine their character and behaviors. Through the process of discovering the true nature of personal character, you learn to understand and identify the weaknesses that may have helped contribute to alcoholic behavior. When you identify your weaknesses, it allows you to recognize these habits in the future. As you might expect, searching yourself so intimately can be a deeply uncomfortable and challenging endeavor. Luckily, there is a process for practicing Step 4 of AA. It is suggested that you have a Sponsor to guide you through this personal work.

How Should I Work Step 4?

As you work through Step 4 you may find that it takes more time and dedication than you initially thought. However, it is a process worth conquering. Here are a few tips to help you through it.

Make a list. Take a moment to make a list of things in your life that have produced negative feelings. These may include people, institutions, principles, beliefs, life situations, or circumstances that have made you feel angry, bitter, or resentful. Even if your list is long, try not to hold back. Be honest about the things and circumstances that have produced negativity in your life, even if you recognize that those negative feelings may be unwarranted.

Accept that you are responsible for your behaviors (past, present, and future ones). As you make your list and work through Step 4, you’ll also need to stop blaming others for your behavior. You and you alone are responsible for the things you do and say.
Push through your fear. Although this step involves making a “fearless” inventory, that doesn’t mean you won’t be scared. Understandably, after you make your list, you might be hesitant to share it with your sponsor. Your sponsor should be someone you trust and you don’t have to feel ashamed or scared. Even if you’re scared, Step 4 asks you to not allow those fears to stop you from being honest with yourself and others as you examine your life and your behavior.
1. Firstly, we express compassion for the person who has angered us, by saying the fourth step prayer, as described on page 66 of the Big Book, Alcoholics Anonymous),
  4th Step Prayer
  When a person offended, we said to ourselves,
  "This is a sick man.
  How can I be helpful to him?
  God save me from being angry.
  Thy will be done."
  The Step 4 Prayer from "How it Works"
  page 66 of the Big Book, Alcoholics Anonymous
2. Secondly, we pray for the person who has angered us, as described in the "Freedom from Bondage" story on page 552 of the Big Book, Alcoholics Anonymous.
  Learn to replace resentment with peace of mind.

If you have a resentment you want to be free of,
if you will pray for the person or the thing that you resent,
you will be free.

If you will ask in prayer for everything you want for yourself to be given to them,
you will be free.

Ask for their health, their prosperity, and their happiness,
you will be free.

Even when you don't really want it for them, and your prayers are only words and you don't mean it, go ahead and do it anyway.

Do it every day for two weeks and you will find you have come to mean it and to want it for them, and you will realize that where you used to feel bitterness and resentment and hatred, you now feel compassionate understanding and love.

From an AA member's story, "Freedom from Bondage"
page 552 of the Big Book, Alcoholics Anonymous

Completing Step 4 is extremely challenging for many individuals and if you’re very hesitant to get started or you just don’t feel motivated to do it, you’re not alone. The best way to overcome that is to just grab a piece of paper and a pen and get started, even if you don’t feel ready.

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Tradition 4

Short Form:

Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or A.A. as a whole.

Long Form:

With respect to its own affairs, each A.A. group should be responsible to no other authority than its own conscience. But when its plans concern the welfare of neighboring groups also, those groups ought to be consulted. And no group, regional committee, or individual should ever take any action that might greatly affect A.A. as a whole without conferring with the Trustees of the General Service Board. On such issues our common welfare is paramount.

Concept 4:
At all responsible levels, we ought to maintain a traditional “Right of Participation,” allowing a voting representation in reasonable proportion to the responsibility that each must discharge.

___________________________________________________________________________________________ NOCCO-AA Transaction Detail; January 2023 through March 2023

Meeting Contributions March $ Total YTD __________________________________________________________________________________________

AN Brothers in Recovery, Sun. 7pm 25.00

AN Best Mtg OC Sat 7:30pm 20.00 40.00

AN How Free U Want 2 Be 94.10 94.10

AN It's In the Book Sat. 8:30am 130.72 211.09

AN Mens Stag Thurs. 7pm 200.00

AN Open Discussion Sun. 7:30am 25.00

AN There is a Solution Women, Thurs. 7pm 50.00 50.00

BP Discussion Fri. 8pm 240.00

BP Loonies Thurs. 6:30pm 60.00 60.00

BP Monday Nite, Mon 7:30pm 60.00 60.00

BP Participation Thurs. 7:45pm 20.00 20.00

BR 12x12 Mon 5:30pm 70.00 70.00

BR As Bill Sees It, Weds. 5:30pm 60.00 60.00

BR Solutions Daily 6am 243.47

BR Women's Daily Reflections, Tues, 10:30 40.00

BR Women's AA Step, Sat. 10:30am 162.00 162.00

CM 2850 Men's Meeting Mon. 7pm 400.00

CM High Noon Participation Sunday 50.00 50.00

CM Wake & Skate 340.00

DISTRICT 15 1,164.22 1,164.22

FUL Sunday Alano Club Meeting 2.00

FUL 10th Step Women's Thursday 100.00

FUL Discussion Sunday 8pm 200.00 480.00

FUL Harley Men's 8pm Sunday 100.00

FUL Leaf Water Men's Stag 60.00 60.00

FUL Men's Part (Mo's) Thurs. 8pm 150.00

FUL Men's Stag Thurs. 6pm 100.00 100.00

FUL Mo's Book Study, Tues. 6:30pm 100.00 100.00

FUL Morning Glories, Mon. 10:30am 70.00 70.00

FUL Morning Misfits, Sat. 11:30am 50.00

FUL Sat. Nite Live 6pm 50.00 50.00

FUL Women Living in the Solution, Mon. 6:30pm 143.47

FUL Women's 1hr. Hit-n-Run Fri. 6:30pm 155.12

FUL Women's BB Thurs. 5:30pm 145.00 145.00

GG Chapter 7 Group Mon, 7pm 95.50

HB Men's Cover to Cover, Sun 150.00 150.00

INTERGROUP

OFFICE DEPOSIT 30.00 113.00

Lien G. 5.00 15.00

Paul W. 10.00 30.00

Robby P. 10.00 10.00

Marla G. 3.00

Aaron W. 5.00

Total Intergroup 176.00

LH Beginners Basic, Fri. 8pm 27.60 115.20

LH Bowling Alley, Sunday. 10:30am 105.00 227.15

LH Friday Nite Speaker 8pm 70.00 70.00

LH Men's Stag- #6080 Wed. 7pm 44.25

LH Topic Discussion Daily 6:15am 200.00

LM Men's BB Sun. 8pm 70.00

LM Winner's Circle, Tues. 8pm 100.00 100.00

LOSAL Happy Hour 4pm Sun 50.00 50.00

LOSAL Saturday Nite Lite 6pm 300.00 300.00

LOSAL Surrender is Free Daily 7am 124.20 344.65

Monday Night Closed Women's Meeting #168836 78.60 78.60

NOCCO Board Meeting 10.00 10.00

OMD Laguna Beach Canyon Club 8pm #168836 67.00 67.00

OR It's In the Boo, Sat. 8:30am 120.00 320.00

OR Step Study Group 12:00pm 100.00 100.00

OR 777 Beginner's Men's Stag, Thurs 7:30pm 140.00

OR Alkie's Only Men. Wed 7pm 219.75 219.75

OR All About Me Men's Stag, Thur. 7:30pm 300.00

OR Attitude Adjustment, Sun. 8:30am 370.00

OR Book Study, Thurs 7pm 150.00 150.00

OR Hart Park Newcomer TU 40.00

OR Men's Stag, Thurs 7pm 100.00

OR RUSH Hour Monday 5:30pm 200.00 200.00

OR RUSH Hour Thurs. 5:30pm 100.00 100.00

OR RUSH Hour Tues. 5:30pm 225.00 225.00

OR TTT Meeting 6:30am 4 00.00

OR TTT Meeting Weds. 6:30am 350.00

OR We Got a Coffee Pot, Thurs. 7pm 50.00

PL Some Are Sicker Group # 702543 86.40

PL Women's SOS Meeting, Thurs. 7pm 144.00

SB Drunk Busters, Fri. 12pm 50.00

TUS Living Sober, Tues 158.00 158.00

TUS Morning Modification 6am 90.00 90.00

VP 24 Hour Group Daily 7:30am 88.00

WHTR The Den Book Study, Thurs. 8pm 150.00 350.00

WHTR Women's Acceptance, Sat. 10:30am 60.00

Woodglen Recovery 9.80

YL Attitude Modification Daily 6am 420.00 750.00

YL BB Study, Wed. 8pm 23.00

45.00

42.00

40.00

45.00

475.00

YL Daily Reflections, Fri. 12pm 105.00 210.00

YL Discussion (Liverpool) Mon 8pm 80.00

YL Friday Night Ohio Winners 8pm 200.00

YL Friday Night Liverpool 7:30pm 8.62

YL Happy Hour BB Fri, 5:30pm 20.00 40.00

YL It's in the Book, Sat. 8:30am 120.00

YL New Start Daily 6am 347.00 1,379.80

YL Nooners BB Study M-12pm 63.70 63.70

YL Noontimers, Weds. 12pm 130.00 330.00

YL Participation, Thurs. 7:30pm 300.00

YL Right Start Sun. 8:30am 300.00

YL Rule 62 Mens Stag, Mon. 7pm 70.00 70.00

YL Savi Sunday 500.00 900.00

YL Tammy's House 115.00

YL Women's Discussion, Tues. 7:30pm 453.26

ZM Coffee Talk, Weds. 2pm 126.00 126.00

ZM Women's Emotional Sobriety, Mon. 7pm 75.00

TOTAL MEETING CONTRIBUTIONS (MARCH 2023) $ 6,792.89

Year to Date $ 17,526.15

***If you do not see your meeting listed, ask your group treasurer if it is time to make a contribution. Call Mike or Rebecca at Central Office for any and all inquiries and we will be glad to help you.

714-773-4357

You Are Appreciated

Thank you to the Amazing Women's Banquet committee for your generous contribution to North Orange County Central Office. We received an $8,000 check from the 25th Annual Roaring 20s theme event staff on April 2, 2023. NOCCO will keep you posted on all the details and how you can attend and be of service for next year's Women's Banquet.

We look forward to fellowshipping with you all.

NOCCO By Laws - Full Document

NOCCO 2023 Service Board

Scott N - Chairman

Norma R. - Alt Chairman

Cheryle D. - Treasurer

Christy W. - Secretary

Tony B. - Outreach Chair

Emily M - Outreach

Paul W. - Events

Alicia B. - Events

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Neighborhood Notables

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InterGroup Meeting - April 12 @ 7:30pm

Please join us at the next NOCCO InterGroup Meeting. InterGroup Meetings are held the 2nd Wednesday of each month at 7:30 pm. ZOOM ID: 860 4109 6976 - Password: Serenity

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Save the Date: JUNE 10th 2023

"OLD TIMERS" MEETING

Location: Fullerton Free Church

Time: To be determined soon

Do you have something special to report for our monthly neighborhood notables? Please email birthdays, celebrations, sober activities and other odds and ends to officemanager@aanoc.org.

Group Contributions

To help support local essential services, the General Service Conference suggests that individual groups, through an informed group conscience, adopt a specific contribution plan. Click below to see all of the Group Contributions from previous periods.

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Statement of Financial Position

Each month, NOCCO provides accounting detail of income and expenses to indicate net profit or loss over the last month. This information is available to any group or member. Click below to see the financial detail from last month.

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www.aanoc.org site is under construction. Please Review the Anonymous Times for current financial position

We reached our goal, $777 but there is still time to bring your coins to NOCCO.

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Profit & Loss: March 2023

Ordinary Income/ Expense

Income

Faithful Fivers, Individuals and Group Contributions

TOTAL CONTRIBUTIONS/DONATIONS $7,723.14

TOTAL FUNDRAISER/EVENTS $739.53

Sales

Books AA/Non AA, literature, Chips, Other Items $7,554.00

TOTAL INCOME $16.016.67

Cost of Goods Sold (COGS)

Books AA/Non AA, literature, Chips, Other Items $5,859.31

TOTAL GROSS PROFIT $10,157.36

Expenses

Salaries, Insurances, Rent, Accounting, Taxes, etc. $11,527.49

NET INCOME - $1,370.13

***Full Accrual Summary Posted at Central Office

NOCCO is starting to participate in GroupRaise fundraisers. This is an easy way to observe supporting North Orange County Seventh Tradition Club.

We will be given a 50% profit on all dozens of Krisy Kreme donuts you purchase for NOCCO. Just follow this link to help out.

NOCCO Appreciates Your

7th Tradition Support

Even though meetings, 12-step services and operations have shifted to a hybrid environment, expenses continue as we navigate the re-opening of meetings, which underscores the importance of practicing the Seventh Tradition. We still stock literature, handle 12-step calls around the clock, and assist those with a desire to stop drinking. Your generous support is critical and appreciated.

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